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Wow, this must be about the saintliest possible response to this particular brand of cognitive dissonance. From this very interesting article that I think I ran into on rabbitica's doula blog.

I was with the doctor I train with doing the initial steps of an intake — an ultrasound to date the pregnancy and a full history.The patient says to the doctor, “I should not be here today. I agree with the people out there.” Gestures out window to street. The people at the bus stop???? “The people who are protesting. I think what you are doing is wrong. I think you should be killed.” Oh. Whoaaaa!

Dr. S does a clinical version of “Werewolf-ing Yourself” which consists of extensively documenting this woman’s ambivalence in the chart, alerting the counseling staff to a patient who would require a lot of support and quickly peacing out of the room before she voiced any of the many justifiable but possibly hurtful words that could come in response to someone looking you in the eye and telling you that you should die for what you do. The only thing that she did say before closing the door was to me, and it was “Your turn!” This is because my secret healthcare superpower is invulnerability to other people’s cognitive dissonance, no matter how profound.

So I told my patient what I truly believe, which is: “I’m so sorry that you feel that way because feeling that way has got to make this an even harder decision than it already is. I imagine it must really feel awful to think that you have to do something that goes against your own beliefs.” (Secret inspiration: my own feelings about the situation!) “I know there is no way you're going to go home feeling you did the absolute right thing no matter what happens today. We are not going to do any procedure until you are absolutely certain that this is what you want. I do not want you to have an abortion. The only that I want you to do is the thing that is most right for you, whether it’s continuing this pregnancy and becoming a parent, or adoption, or abortion.” Then we brought her with her boyfriend to the counselor who talked with them for hours about the spectrum of resources available for not just abortion but adoption and parenting. At my clinic, we joke that we turn away more patients than the protestors do. And although she did end up terminating the pregnancy, the procedure went well, there were no complications, and she told the staff we had been the “most supportive!” I personally thanked her and told her it was an honor to be there for her and still get teary when I think about it. Ice burn, Lila Rose!

More head-shaking/jaw-dropping stories along this line here.


I agree, that is a saintly response, and good for that person for doing it.

I haven't read the whole of the second link yet, but I'll anticipate that it'll be similar to some research that I've come across re: pro-choice vs. pro-life perspectives on women who get abortions. Bottom line of that being: pro-choice women typically recognize that there are a variety of reasons why women get abortions, whereas pro-life women typically assume that "most" women who get abortions are stupid sluts (but if they or their personal friends need one, well, then it's sure to be for a "good" reason, unlike all those dumb bitches out there, so that's okay then). Awesome. /sarcasm Really shows, I think, how much of the issue actually revolves around disdain for women's decision-making.

Gotta say also: that part in the first link about the soldier was upsetting to me. That'll be one more in the big pile of data I have about bullshit ways in which the state deals with abortion.

Yep, same shit. :P